Forgive Me, I need Help!
Few days ago, I was surprised to receive an unexpected email from a person very familiar to me. That person has gone away from my radar for the past four years. But what have happened in the past was still quite fresh in my mind. And I tell you, it was not good at all and somehow, no matter how I tried to put aside this one, the hurt inflicted was just too hard to forget.
Daniella, (not her real name) is a single mom and was in need of job very badly to sustain her child. She asked some help and I did not hesitate to give a helping hand. She went abroad and only to find out that the work promised for her was not the one she was expecting. She was obliged to work in a bar and sit with drinking clients and she gets commission by the number of drinks every client orders. She was devastated and immediately wanted to leave. And she called me. I was so worried and I immediately called a friend if she could find a job for her. A house help or a nanny job would be okay as long as she could get away from that sick place.
My friend immediately found a house job for her but the pay was small, she refused. So she decided to go home and pleaded me to help her pay for her plane ticket. In which I did. After that, a friend offered to help her train in online job and in that way, once she is trained, she could work at home and make money. A very good friend from the U.S. even gave her a used laptop for her future work. I was pleased for the way it was turning out. However, it didn't last long because I have heard that she was not really that serious at work so I was upset and I gave her a piece of my mind.
That's how the trouble started. She did not appreciate what I told her and she responded me in a very hurtful words and there were reproaches and blamed me for what's happening in her life . All I wanted to do was to help and I was so concerned with her future and for her child. I did not bother to respond to her email anymore. The best thing I did was to ignore her.
The recent message I received was full of remorse. She told me how sorry she was and asked for forgiveness and she really regrets of what have happened between us. She said she is hard up and nobody could help her and the only person she hopes to be able to help her now is ME. She has no job and obviously financially hard up.
Four long years have passed and here she comes again knocking, toc-toc-toc! Why only now? Why waited for a long time?
I responded and told her that she is forgiven and I also asked forgiveness. I was probably too harsh with my words at that but I just wanted to let her know that I was just only concerned for her welfare.
This is a lesson for both of us I guess. Learning to control someone's emotions is very important to avoid provoking hurt feelings in the future. Of course I was terribly unhappy for what have happened. I was not proud of myself at that time either.
Another lesson also for Daniella is humility. If she has different kind of life, if she is in good condition, she won't probably come and apologize and ask forgiveness.....and most of all ask for another help.
What do you think?
Few days ago, I was surprised to receive an unexpected email from a person very familiar to me. That person has gone away from my radar for the past four years. But what have happened in the past was still quite fresh in my mind. And I tell you, it was not good at all and somehow, no matter how I tried to put aside this one, the hurt inflicted was just too hard to forget.
Daniella, (not her real name) is a single mom and was in need of job very badly to sustain her child. She asked some help and I did not hesitate to give a helping hand. She went abroad and only to find out that the work promised for her was not the one she was expecting. She was obliged to work in a bar and sit with drinking clients and she gets commission by the number of drinks every client orders. She was devastated and immediately wanted to leave. And she called me. I was so worried and I immediately called a friend if she could find a job for her. A house help or a nanny job would be okay as long as she could get away from that sick place.
My friend immediately found a house job for her but the pay was small, she refused. So she decided to go home and pleaded me to help her pay for her plane ticket. In which I did. After that, a friend offered to help her train in online job and in that way, once she is trained, she could work at home and make money. A very good friend from the U.S. even gave her a used laptop for her future work. I was pleased for the way it was turning out. However, it didn't last long because I have heard that she was not really that serious at work so I was upset and I gave her a piece of my mind.
That's how the trouble started. She did not appreciate what I told her and she responded me in a very hurtful words and there were reproaches and blamed me for what's happening in her life . All I wanted to do was to help and I was so concerned with her future and for her child. I did not bother to respond to her email anymore. The best thing I did was to ignore her.
The recent message I received was full of remorse. She told me how sorry she was and asked for forgiveness and she really regrets of what have happened between us. She said she is hard up and nobody could help her and the only person she hopes to be able to help her now is ME. She has no job and obviously financially hard up.
Four long years have passed and here she comes again knocking, toc-toc-toc! Why only now? Why waited for a long time?
I responded and told her that she is forgiven and I also asked forgiveness. I was probably too harsh with my words at that but I just wanted to let her know that I was just only concerned for her welfare.
This is a lesson for both of us I guess. Learning to control someone's emotions is very important to avoid provoking hurt feelings in the future. Of course I was terribly unhappy for what have happened. I was not proud of myself at that time either.
Another lesson also for Daniella is humility. If she has different kind of life, if she is in good condition, she won't probably come and apologize and ask forgiveness.....and most of all ask for another help.
What do you think?
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